Why do we Yell in Anger?

A sage asked his mandalies ,'Why people yell at eachother when they are upset?'

The men thought for a while,'Because we loose our calmness,' said one.'we yell for that.'
'But, why to yell when the other person is at your side?' asked thesage. ' Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Whydo you yell at a person when you're angry?'

The men gave some other answers but none satisfied the sage. Finallyhe explained,'When two people are angry at each other, their heartsdistance a lot. To cover that distance they must yell, to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have toyell to hear each other through that great distance.'

Then the sage asked,' What happens when two people fall in love? Theydo not yell at each other but talk softly, why?Their hearts are veryclose. The distance between them is very small.'

The sage continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens?They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each otherin their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look ateach other and that's all. That is how close two people are when theylove each other.'

Then the sage said, 'When you argue do not let your hearts get distant,do not say words that distance each other more, else there will come a day whenthe distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.'

Tug Of War

Some years ago on a hot summer day in south Florida, a little boy decided to go for a swim in the old swimming pool behind his house. In a hurry to dive into the cool water, he ran out the back door, leaving behind shoes, socks and shirt as he went. He flew into the water, not realizing that as he swam toward the middle of the lake, an alligator was swimming toward the shore.

His mother; in the house was looking out the window; saw the two as they got closer and closer together. In utter fear, she ran toward the water, yelling to her son as loudly as she could.

Hearing her voice, the little boy became alarmed and made a U-turn to swim to his mother.

It was too late. Just as he reached her, the alligator reached him. From the dock, the mother grabbed her little boy by the arms just as the alligator snatched his legs. That began an incredible tug-of-war between the two.

The alligator was much stronger than the mother, but the mother was much too passionate to let go.

A farmer happened to drive by, heard her screams, raced from his truck, took aim and shot the alligator. Remarkably, after weeks and weeks in the hospital, the little boy survived.

His legs were extremely scarred by the vicious attack of the animal. And, on his arms, were deep scratches where his mother's fingernails dug into his flesh in her effort to hang on to the son she loved.

The newspaper reporter who interviewed the boy after the trauma, asked if he would show him his scars. The boy lifted his pant legs. And then, with obvious pride, he said to the reporter, "But look at my arms. I have great scars on my arms, too. I have them because my mom wouldn't let go."

You and I can identify with that little boy. We have scars, too. No, not from an alligator, or anything quite so dramatic, But, the scars of a painful past. Some of those scars are unsightly and have caused us deep regret. But, some wounds, my friend, are because God has refused to let go. In the midst of our struggle, He's been there holding on to us.

He did not - and will not - let you go.

The Window

A young couple moves into a new neighborhood. The next morning, while they are eating breakfast, the young woman sees her neighbor hang the wash outside.

That laundry is not very clean, she said, she doesn't know how to wash correctly. Perhaps she needs better laundry soap.

Her husband looked on, but remained silent. Every time her neighbor would hang her wash to dry, the young woman would make the same comments.

About one month later, the woman was surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and said to her husband: "Look! She has learned how to wash correctly. I wonder who taught her this."

The husband said: "I got up early this morning and cleaned our windows!"
And so it is with life: "What we see when watching others depends on the purity of the window through which we look. Before we give any criticism, it might be a good idea to check our state of mind and ask ourselves if we are ready to see the good rather than to be looking for something in the person we are about to judge. "

And oh yes! I almost forgot….I see you today much clearer than I did yesterday…And you?